Do I really have to play with my kids?

//Do I really have to play with my kids?

Calling all Parents! Are you washing, cleaning, cooking, ironing, tidying, sorting, shopping, sweeping, vacuuming and mopping… only to finally sit down with a cuppa and hear a little person say ‘Mum, can you play with me?’ Then hello – the attack of the guilts.

I admit, I have never been a mum to enjoy playing with my kids. That sounds so awful, and I don’t mean I don’t love spending time with my kids, I just mean I really don’t love playing hide and seek, Barbie, or racing on the Hot Wheels track. To me, that is seriously boring.

Knowing that information, it’s probably not surprising that I am not, and have never been, a helicopter mum. My kids have always been encouraged to pursue their own games and learn how to entertain themselves. My friends have always said to me ‘I don’t know how you fit everything in!’ and that is because I have always done what I need to do and my kids have had to learn to wait and work around me. As horrifying as this sounds to some mums, I believe this has encouraged my kids to be flexible, adaptable, creative and resourceful.

Even so, I still have to make SOME time for my kids.

In the current world of technology and busy, busy lives it is easy to fill in every minute with something. Heck, I have even been known to check my facebook at the traffic lights because I can’t stand the two minute wait til green. I despise wasting time and am constantly plotting my next ten moves in my head in attempt to cut them down to eight. So where does this leave my kids?

Kids need a time slot in our busy schedules. Not even for a long time – twenty minutes can satisfy their needs IF we make those twenty minutes count.

I have learnt (by training myself) that during ‘kid’ time I put down my phone. I leave the washing in the machine. I ignore the beeping microwave. I turn off the TV.

We need to be PRESENT for our children in the time that we allocate for them.
If we acknowledge our children by giving them our full attention, using our body language and facial expression to show interest, reflect on their conversation by saying ‘Oh?’ or ‘I see’ they truly know that we understand, care, love and respect them – that nothing else matters in that moment.

And if that moment cannot be now – reschedule it for another moment, when you can give your whole being.

EVEN if you have to play with Barbies.

2018-03-27T20:23:19+00:00 August, 27th 2015|